I recently started a new series on the blog called Monica’s Two Cents where I answer questions from my readers.
A few weeks ago, I kicked off the series with a question about what to do with your old credit card.
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Today’s question was posted in the comments of Amy’s Journey to Financial Freedom. Here it is:
“Amy’s story highlighted that new relationships or even an on-going one can get you into financial debt. So how do you stay frugal during the early stages of a new relationship when there are lots of temptation and desire to go out all the time?”
– Ursula Petula Barzey
Whether you have a new interest, a long-term partner, or are married to your best friend, I think we can all agree that we want to enjoy our dates without the risk of blowing our budget.
This is a big topic for my husband Mike and me right now because we have recently committed to going on at least one date each month without the kids. It is sad to say that we have not been on many kid-free dates since our son was born almost four years ago.
We feel that being consistent with this is important for our relationship so we are committed to changing that fact. Starting in March we have been enjoying dating each other again.
It is definitely easy to fall into the habit of dinner and a movie. That can get old after a while, not to mention expensive.
So I have put together some ideas for dating your partner without breaking the bank. I have broken them down by category. Bookmark this post so when you are ready to plan your next date, you can easily find a few options that might work for you.
Enjoy the Outdoors
With the sun becoming less shy this time of year, we are looking forward to getting outside more.
If it’s nice where you live, soak up some sun and get some fresh air with these ideas:
- Go for a hike
- Go on a walk through an eclectic neighborhood, downtown, or on a trail
- Go rock climbing
- Plan a picnic
- Go for a bike ride
- People watch at a public place
- People watch and come up with silly conversations for what they’re saying
- Drive to the beach, lake, or river
- Go to the driving range
- Enjoy a game of mini golf
- Practice your aim at the shooting range
- Take a dip in an outdoor pool
- Enjoy an outdoor concert
- Visit a local festival
- Go on a walking tour
- Peruse the local farmers’ market
- Walk through a public garden
Go Out on the Town
Sometimes you want to get out of the house but prefer to stay indoors.
Get your date night (or day!) on with these indoor ideas:
- Window shop at a mall or local boutique and specialty shops
- Go for ice cream
- Go out for dessert (my favorite!)
- Check out a new coffee shop
- Go roller-skating
- Go ice-skating
- Visit a rock climbing gym
- Partake in a game of laser tag
- Pretend you’re in combat with a game of paintball
- Go on a bus tour
- Take a dance class
- Take a cooking class
- Take an art class
- Take a dip in an indoor pool
- Visit historical landmarks
- Visit a 3D movie theater
- Go bowling
- Play a game of pool
- Visit a museum on free or discounted days
- Visit an art gallery
- Act like tourists in your town and check out someplace you’ve never been
- Find more ideas for your town from TripAdvisor.com
Kick It at Home
Don’t want to go anywhere?
Enjoy yourselves at home with these options:
- Find a craft or DIY project on Pinterest and tackle it together
- Watch a movie or TV series on Netflix
- Make homemade pizzas
- Bake together
- Make a fancy dinner together
- Play board games or card games
- Take turns practicing massage techniques
- Camp out in your backyard. Get the BBQ or campfire going. Grill up some burgers and make s’mores. YUM!
- Make it a theme night
- Practice speaking another language to each other
- Learn something new together
- Look at old photos together
- Take relationship quizzes like the 5 Love Languages profile
- Just talk. Daydream out loud and ask each other interesting questions
Here’s a Challenge (and a Free Download!)
When Mike and I were first married (before we had kids), we were both working full-time and looked forward to spending our weekends together. But we had a hard time coming up with ideas on the fly that didn’t involve eating out and spending lots of money at the movie theater.
One day we decided to come up with a plan so we wouldn’t be void of ideas on the weekends. We wanted to keep things fresh and have some spontaneity in our new marriage.
We wrote out a bunch of ideas on little pieces of paper, threw them in a fish bowl (one of the centerpieces from our wedding reception), and took turns each week picking an item from the bowl.
We listed specific places we could visit, including hiking trails, landmarks, and restaurants.
I challenge you to break free from the rut of dinner and a movie for your next date.
In order to help, I have put the ideas on this list together in a free download that you can print and cut up to create your own assortment of frugal date ideas. (If you don’t have a fishbowl lying around, a small gift bag works great, too!)
I’ve also included some blank spaces so you can add ideas specific to your preferences and location. 🙂
I hope you take the challenge! Let me know how it goes.
If you found this article useful, please share it with your money-conscious friends.
What About You?
Participate in the conversation. What frugal date ideas do you have? How do you keep your dates fun, exciting, and low cost? Share in the comments below.
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Ursula Petula Barzey says
Lots of great ideas. I particularly like the outdoor stuff which I can definitely do now that it’s getting warmer!
Monica Louie says
Thanks, Ursula! We’re looking forward to getting outdoors more now too!
Steve Economides says
Love the fishbowl idea. You guys rock! Keep leading the way to family, fun and frugality!
Monica Louie says
Thanks so much, Steve! That means a lot! 🙂
Marlynn [UrbanBlissLife] says
Fun ideas!
Monica Louie says
Thanks, Marlynn! Glad you like them!
Tracy Rempel says
I really like this post! We just took the Love Languages test recently. Good stuff. We also like to borrow cultural passes from the county library system for free adventures to museums and parks around town.
Monica Louie says
I love that idea! So resourceful! I love that! I’ll have to find out what my library offers. 🙂
Havalah says
these are really fun ideas, I’m pinning them!
Monica Louie says
Yay! I’m glad you enjoyed the post and found the ideas of useful. 🙂
pechluck says
What a great list! I definitely fall into a rut of similar set of activities, so it’s good to be reminded of other things to do and branch out!
Monica Louie says
Thanks, Pech! I’m glad you liked the post!
Justin Barclay says
I LOVED these! Just being together makes it all worth it.Thanks Monica!
Monica Louie says
Thanks, Justin! I totally agree!
alipdx says
These are all great ideas! One thing we did that saved a lot of money was have the high school student watch our three kids after they go to bed at 7 for a flat rate of $20 per night. She doesn’t have to do anything since they’re already in bed, and we can go out for several hours without having the 15-18 per hour for a sitter hanging over our heads. It’s been great.
Monica Louie says
That’s a great idea! I need to find a responsible high school student to watch the kids. Right now we just rely on family. Once the kids go to bed, it’s great study time for the babysitter!
chelsea @ the new wifestyle says
i totally love the one of looking at old photos too! my husband and i love to do this while we are traveling (on our phones) because it makes us feeling closer and appreciate the memories we are making currently too!
Monica Louie says
Glad you like that idea! It’s great to remember how far we’ve come in our relationship.
Danielle Berger says
Aw, I love the idea of looking at old photos together! I’m such a nostalgic sap, haha! These are great ideas. Thanks for sharing, cheers!
Monica Louie says
It’s great to reminisce about when we first got together, but I also like looking at pictures of us as kids and learning about each other’s childhoods. 🙂
Lindsay Ingalls says
Great Ideas!
Monica Louie says
Thanks, Lindsay!